Sex Without Betrothal

Sex Without Betrothal Cases

Ex. 22:16 And if a man entice a maid that is not betrothed, and lie with her, he shall surely endow her to be his wife. 17 If her father utterly refuse to give her unto him, he shall pay money according to the dowry of virgins.

My post: “It depends on how severe the mistake was! If a girl was seduced (penetrated) previously, her dating days are actually over as long as her first man (who penetrated her) is still alive. She would have no biblical right to offer herself as an unchaste date (potential mate) to another man. It would be an attempt of folly to even date someone, leading the guy on that she is chaste (Dt.22:21). God expects the virtue of chastity to be kept among the people of God. See my sermon 'Illusion'.”

Second post: “It is actually the father's decision (or guardian), not the girl's decision to decide whom she will marry (have sex). The endowment law (Ex. 22:16) helps us understand the violation of chastity commandment of Dt. 22:21. The father is expected to have a trust relationship (faith in her obedience) with his daughter. He expects her to remain a virgin and if she doesn't, she is to notify him so that he may collect his endowment and choose whether to give her away in marriage or to keep her single.”