We are living in a time when mockers and false teachers say and do harmful things (Jude, v. 18; II Pet. 3:3). It is important that we distinguish right from wrong concerning sexual matters because marriage is a wonderful blessing for a whole lifetime: so do not be misled by the insidious conduct and false teachings of people who do not obey God. There are men who laugh at seducing a virgin and then leave her, when actually, such men, victims of their own deception, should take the responsibility of a husband to the female victim (Ex. 22:16).

     A virgin should be sure that she is walking in the will of the Lord and that her man friend genuinely loves her (Christian) personality before marriage. The male should be walking in the will of the Lord and have a high regard (other than sexual) for his woman friend; and he should be aware of the marital responsibility (consequence ) to lie with a virgin.

     It is God's will that you recognize your present marital/sexual status from a Christian perspective. If you would like to date, and possibly marry someday, first consider your own sexual status (whether you are a virgin or not, unmarried or not). Then think upon your circumstances, and decide for yourself whether God would approve of your desire. If he would, also think hypothetically about someone of the opposite sex who seems attractive to you--does this person have an acceptable marital status? If neither you nor the desirable person has been married (with the exception of being a widower or widow), then it would be permissible for you to date. However, since adultery is forbidden, having a romantic relationship with someone who has been married would be sinful and contrary to the will of God.

     If you are not sure what your own sexual status is, then remain single and pray to God that he will reveal it to you before you attempt to date anyone. A person who may have been left as not recognized, or recognized and deserted, or publicly divorced may still be a useful Christian (I Cor. 7:10, 11). The important matter is that such a person is willing to allow God to have his holy way. If the situation is that it is not biblically permissible for a person to date any one, God still loves single people and wants to bless anyone who is willing to yield to him-- He remains faithful. A person may be grateful for salvation, and helpful in Christian work even though the opportunity for marriage has been lost.

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