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Female Recovery: Incest and Rape Victims
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Faith Enhanced by Intelligence Difference between Widow Marriage (I Cor. 7:39) and Remarriage Sexual Abstinence Determination Overcoming Error through Faith Women should help guard other women with men. Midwife and Anti-abusive Birth Gender-biased
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The beginning: No law against close relative sex Although incest is a horrible sin today, it was not always a sin. In early biblical times, sexual relationships of what we call incest today were necessary to bring posterity to the progenitors. People could not have multiplied otherwise. However, eventually the law of Moses was given and close-relative sex was limited. The torah: Incest law In order to understand what is Biblically acceptable concerning the close relative law of marriage, you must realize that God's commandments were given in dispensations. From the beginning, Adam and Eve were the progenitors of the whole earth. Thus, hypothetically, through regeneration, the earth could not have been filled with people without one of their sons having sex with one of their daughters. The close relative law was not in effect at that time. Even later on, as the world passed, what was once permitted in Jacob's time was incriminated in Lv. 18:18. As time continued, God's laws were increased and written. Eventually and finally, the New Testament books were written. So, even with a brief recalling, the marriage between cousins may seem surprisingly close today; however, it did not violate the close relative law of Lv. 18:6- 18). Leviticus 18:6-18 6 None of you shall approach to any that is near of kin to him, to uncover their nakedness: I am the LORD. 7 The nakedness of thy father, or the nakedness of thy mother, shalt thou not uncover: she is thy mother; thou shalt not uncover her nakedness. 8 The nakedness of thy father’s wife shalt thou not uncover: it is thy father’s nakedness. 9 The nakedness of thy sister, the daughter of thy father, or daughter of thy mother, whether she be born at home, or born abroad, even their nakedness thou shalt not uncover. 10 The nakedness of thy son’s daughter, or of thy daughter’s daughter, even their nakedness thou shalt not uncover: for theirs is thine own nakedness. 11 The nakedness of thy father’s wife’s daughter, begotten of thy father, she is thy sister, thou shalt not uncover her nakedness. 12 Thou shalt not uncover the nakedness of thy father’s sister: she is thy father’s near kinswoman. 13 Thou shalt not uncover the nakedness of thy mother’s sister: for she is thy mother’s near kinswoman. 14 Thou shalt not uncover the nakedness of thy father’s brother, thou shalt not approach to his wife: she is thine aunt. 15 Thou shalt not uncover the nakedness of thy daughter in law: she is thy son’s wife; thou shalt not uncover her nakedness. 16 Thou shalt not uncover the nakedness of thy brother’s wife: it is thy brother’s nakedness. 17 Thou shalt not uncover the nakedness of a woman and her daughter, neither shalt thou take her son’s daughter, or her daughter’s daughter, to uncover her nakedness; for they are her near kinswomen: it is wickedness. 18 Neither shalt thou take a wife to her sister, to vex her, to uncover her nakedness, beside the other in her life time. A raped woman loses her virginity: Consequently, this forbids her to marry another man as long as the rapist (or close relative) is alive A defiled woman is not permitted to marry another man as long as the man she had sex with is still alive. Beware of councilors that tell you to the contrary! She must live as a single. This is explained through the writing below concerning cognizance. Annulment: Due to female chastity lacking in marriage Some people have married under defiled circumstances and had children. Nevertheless, for the sake of repentance and cleanliness, the woman should separate from the defiled marriage and have it annulled. Final step: Live a single life Making biblical amends and living single without a desire to marry while unchaste is expected, even with children. God can bring restoration to your life as long as you are willing to live a holy life. A Christian woman has sanctity rules to follow and they are expected to be fulfilled. Faith without works is not really faith. A woman that would offer unchastity to a man is not holy, and needs repentance. Therefore, if a dumped (sexually abused or mated and left unmarried) woman cannot legitimately have a relationship with men, she must prove herself as a faithful single. She must not walk after the flesh: "There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit. For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus hath made me free from the law of sin and death" (Rom. 8:1, 2). Sexual cleanliness: One male-partner cognizance Adam and Eve experienced clean enlightenment and intellectually knew one another. Once a cognizant man has had sex with a woman in the way of pro-creation, he has been enlightened and can realize he “knew” the woman in a physical, intimate way, a way that is meant to be known only in agreement with God's plan of sexual cleanliness. The Old Testament Law (Torah) required (Ex. 22:16, Dt. 22:13-21, 28, 29) a woman that had first time sex whether by choice, seduction or rape to marry her first man (excluding miscegenation--those not genealogically and genetically belonging directly to the Hebrew subraces). Adam and Eve did not have any problem with uncleanness. Marriage was designed a unity that should not be broken. Divorce was not intended: Mark 10:6 But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. 7 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; 8 And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. 9 What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. Adam and Eve experienced a new dimension of their physical usefulness through having sex. Adam's intellect was opened due to the experiment: “And Adam knew Eve his wife ...” (Gn. 4:1). Their union was honorable and undefiled (He. 13:4): “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” No one should break up a marital unity that is ordained of God. (However, note there were refusals of marriage and inheritance due to miscegenation in Ezra 10.) Widowhood and purity: One-male-partner cognizance "So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man" (Rom. 7:3). A pure widow and only having known one man (her former husband) is no longer bound as a wife (I Cor. 7:39) and has no current male-partner cognizance. A dead man is not cognizant. She is eligible for another marriage and has spiritual indemnity as far as sexual cleanliness is concerned. I Cor. 7: 39 The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord. 40 But she is happier if she so abide, after my judgment: and I think also that I have the Spirit of God. Sexual defilement: Two male-partner cognizance On the other hand, when a cognizant, married woman and a man other than her husband concur this realization of knowing each other in a defiled, pro-creative manner, the woman's mind no longer holds the intellectual purity of knowing only one, living, man anymore. Penetration of the vagina is an accepted opinion that would determine such defilement; however, actually the issue of discernment of sexual cleanliness bears upon the consciousness of the individuals involved. (Dry sex—no penetration of the vagina but rubbing the external vulva--out of marriage would be filthy but not as intimate. However, it may be enough for a man to refuse a woman. Purity and cleanliness must be stressed.) Her life, psychological and physical state becomes divided and unclean, leaving repentance and a life of sexual singleness as the only peaceful resolve. Rape of married woman: Defilement and two male-partner cognizance When rape of an innocent, married woman occurs, the rapist destroys not only the psychological and physical purity of the woman, but afflicts and devastates her husband and posterity to survive in cleanliness on their own. The victimized woman no longer can live as a wife to the father of the family. They must separate so as not to participate in coitus and defile the whole family. Cleanliness of the male husband should not be mixed with the uncleanliness of the defiled wife. Of course, the victimized wife should still be loved as always and respected for her screaming and resistance against the rape. Perhaps a separate room may be given to her, helping her live a single life without sex. Rape of a virgin: One male-partner cognizance According to the Old Testament, when rape of a virgin occurred, if the daughter had already been given (betrothed), the rapist concurred the death penalty. The daughter would have been expected to resist with vocal expression (screaming) to prove her will at any cost to maintain her dignity. On the other hand, when rape of a non-betrothed virgin occurred, she was required to marry the rapist if her father so desired. Obviously he would have only accepted a male with similar genetic attributes as others of the homogeneous community. (Please acknowledge this rule did not violate the genetic, race prescription in Nu: 36:5-13. Also, note the intolerance of the attempted, inter-racial marriage of Dinah, and the sharing of posterity of Ishmael by Sarah. Racial and cultural homogeneity is expected to be preserved.) This sexual assault may have been considered a great loss to the female victim, but if the sexual aggressor was a boyfriend or someone that the father accepted as a good man but just couldn't handle his sexual appetite at the time, he may have been obligated to approve it. Nevertheless, the father has the authority to finalize the decision as to marriage according to particular circumstances of seduction. See the links on rape and dowry in the side column. Remarriage, divorce and return to former husband (Dt. 24.4): Defilement and two male-partner cognizance When a woman remarries, which was permitted under some circumstances in the Old Covenant but not in the New Covenant, she loses her previous one male-partner cognizance status. It would be an abomination for the former husband to receive her. They both, the former husband and the divorced wife, would know that she has not purity and a one male-partner cognizance status. Deuteronomy 24:1 When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house. 2 And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man’s wife. 3 And if the latter husband hate her, and write her a bill of divorcement, and giveth it in her hand, and sendeth her out of his house; or if the latter husband die, which took her to be his wife; 4 Her former husband, which sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after that she is defiled; for that is abomination before the LORD: and thou shalt not cause the land to sin, which the LORD thy God giveth thee for an inheritance.
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