Friendship Before Marriage or Betrothal

“Lol... I completely understand your question! I've dealt with 7 year-olds who have gone through some messed up stif before. But, yes in my case, things were definitely pure before tenth grade. No dating relationships because I was way too nervous...”

hesedken (my reply, Mar 23, 2013)

“Thanks for responding BrittnyMess. There is still one other thing I would like to make clear. To have a God-approved marriage, a husband must not have any living, once-virgins (that he knew/had sex with) waiting for him to return. I am by no means accusing anyone. It would just give me full confidence in your marriage if you told me he doesn't. If so, you are a great Christian example. Blessings.”

I received a personal message: “Hesedken, if you are asking whether or not he was a virgin, yes he was.”

Then I sent a message concerning genetics: Racial homogeneity. I also included my video “Dating And Marriage” as an attachment.

“This is an issue most people may cringe to talk about openly under modern, political-correctness and inter-racial promotion in the USA.

“You look like a dominant race descendant of the Northern European peoples. Is that correct? And... would you say your husband is generally a descendant of the same peoples?”

As of 3/25/2013, to my dissappointment, I have received no reply.

Nevertheless, to the rest of you, I would like to point out that race-mixing is a cause of self-affliction and problems among a homogeneous society (Nehemiah 13). It was also a cause for divorce and loss of inheritance in Israel (Ezra 10).

Our Patrilineal Homogeneity Policy

God can keep your mate. It is a big world with many wonders, but the creator is in control of it. Let us maintain self-control ( and bear fruit—Gal. 5) through His leading.

Waiting works upon chastity. However, in the case of previous female defilement, abstinence, not waiting, would be required. Since this lovely person does not go into her full sexual history, I must make the point.

Female Virginity and Sexual Chastity for Marriage (Ex. 22:16, Dt. 22:13-21, 28, 29)

The once virgin female partner no longer has a justifiable opportunity to have sex with anyone else as long as her first male sex partner is alive--to do so would commit fornication.

See the sermon "Illusion".

Abandoned (defiled) or divorced females are required to remain single and sexually abstinent.

Divorced males (from their once virgin or chaste widow) are required to remain single and sexually abstinent.

Pray for those who uphold biblical morality, righteousness and virtue (Phil. 4:8). May God bless them the more and despite those who wish them evil; and those who wish them well may God even bless them the more. Amen.

Let kissing wait for marriage.

My post:

“I admire you. You have some great points. However, your hook-up with the Adventists may be a "fat mistake". There is only one church--the body of believers in the Lord Jesus Christ. If you believe in Jesus, you do not have to join any organizations, you have already become part of the church. Nevertheless, each person must work his (or her) own salvation out.

“Pre-marital sex for a female would mean loss of her virginity, a requirement for biblical marriage (Ex. 22:16, Dt. 22:13-21, 28, 29).”

Kissing and touching is intimate. Those things can wait for marriage. Friendship outings or “dating” should be made among other believers or at least with a chaperone.

Shomer negiah: Observant of touch

1 Corinthians 7:1 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. (KJV)

Our hormones: We may be tempted.

Lots of good points: