Godly Love and Purity

God does forgive. (I John 1:9) However, we live in a day when people are confusing forgiveness for a previous sexual relationship (penetration) as an excuse to evade the issue of morality and chastity in a consecutive relationship. God requires female virginity for marriage (Ex. 22:16, Dt. 22:13-21, 28, 29). Therefore, a defiled female may repent and be forgiven, but she must remain abstinent and not seek any more pre-marital relationships. More blessed and free are the chaste.

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A pure mind comes from God, through learning and believing the things of God. A born-again person has a clean, pure mind. Studying and applying the Scriptures help the pure person grow in love and purity.

The pure mind of a man or woman will not hold on to any form of sexual uncleanness. The pure mind realizes compromising with sexually immoral people is against God. The pure mind will not tolerate any unclean doctrine that is promoted by heretics. The pure mind will not adhere to any associative, disorderly conduct: The pure mind will not feel comfortable around people that seek their own fleshly will, contradicting the Bible.

Even if a person is physically a virgin, if the pure mind is not the reason of it, then danger lies ahead. Sometimes people, men and women, are not as physically attractive as others. Due to this, the temptation and sexual advancement of a sinful person, or even a potential friend and mate may be relatively weakened. If this is the major reason the person has not been challenged to have “sexual pleasure,” if that challenge occurs and seems tempting, how can that person without a pure mind and will to remain chaste resist the temptation!

Developing a pure mind is protection against defilement regardless of the sexual temptation and challenge. Whether a beautiful woman or not, whether a handsome man or not, a person with a pure mind can resist sexual temptation.

I Cor. 10:13 “There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.”

Substitue the word “Godly love” for “charity” in these beautiful, seventeenth century style (KJV) verses:

I Cor. 13:4 “Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, 5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; 6 Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; 7 Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.”

A pure mind will think positively and protectively:

Philippians 4:8 “Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.”

Thus, a woman or man who merely has physical chastity and does not have a pure mind and a will to remain chaste under any temptation, or adheres to any form of uncleanness may only be one step away from sexual disaster and harm to someone else! Such a physically chaste person can always learn how to develop more physical, intellectual and spiritual, attraction and has so much to offer; therefore, should repent of any sin or ignorance against purity and faith in God as soon as possible.

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God can keep your mate. It is a big world with many wonders, but the creator is in control of it. Let us maintain self-control ( and bear fruit—Gal. 5) through His leading.

Waiting works upon chastity. However, in the case of previous female defilement, abstinence, not waiting, would be required.

Female Virginity and Sexual Chastity for Marriage (Ex. 22:16, Dt. 22:13-21, 28, 29)

The once virgin female partner no longer has a justifiable opportunity to have sex with anyone else as long as her first male sex partner is alive--to do so would commit fornication.

See the sermon "Illusion".

Abandoned (defiled) or divorced females are required to remain single and sexually abstinent.

Divorced males (from their once virgin or chaste widow) are required to remain single and sexually abstinent.

Pray for those who uphold biblical morality, righteousness and virtue (Phil. 4:8). May God bless them the more and despite those who wish them evil; and those who wish them well may God even bless them the more. Amen.

Kissing and touching is intimate. Those things can wait for marriage. Friendship outings or “dating” should be made among other believers or at least with a chaperone.

Shomer negiah: Observant of touch

1 Corinthians 7:1 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. (KJV)

Our hormones: We may be tempted.