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Beware! KayyPeaa replied: I absolutely think virginity matters. If the guy I end up deciding to marry isn't one, we can work through that, but it messes up females minds so much though, because in this super intimate moment where so many insecurities are exposed, you can't help but know that you are being compared to some past love. It's daunting. I personally have decided to stay a virgin until marriage. I made a video (click on my channel to see) to do with that because I have gotten so many negative responses. Female virgins are wonderful women who can offer chastity to a man, a requirement for marriage. However, some female virgins are more wise than others. A virgin female can still end up in an unwanted situation by aiding her want-to-be-husband male to promote fornication (I Cor. 7:2) through former negligent conduct and leaving a pre-maritally bonded girl (Ex. 22, Dt. 22) if she does not qualify his background. The parent or guardian of the female is responsible to have a trust relationship with his daughter so as to be able to give her to a man in faith, knowing she is chaste. However, the parent of the virgin is not as likely to have this trust relationship with the male she is to be given to. There are men who may not be legally married but have in their life time had sex with a female virgin. In these cases, the male would still be obligated to the first female virgin, especially if he had two or more female virgin experiences, whom he joined in coitus. Then, the delusional, male presumed groom-to-be really should be trying to resolve his responsibility with his first virgin and her chastity (to re-unite and legally marry as long as the female had not become defiled by another man), and realize he must remain single if he doesn't in order to prevent another marital obligation to another woman while his former maritally-bonded woman is alive. We live in the apostasy and have lost the great protection of dowry and community living (homogeneous conditions), which guarded marriage (monogamy) and other Biblical institutions. So if a virgin female thinks everything is alright concerning marriage merely due to her own sexual purity, she better beware because she also has a responsibility not to become intrusive to a once-virgin seeking chastity and marital completion/restoration with the presumptuously presumed groom-to-be of the present virgin. Another hypothetical situation to think about, having no interference to restoration as the former case, is the male who has legally but not legitimately married according to the Bible. If the male who has never had sex with a female virgin or chaste widow but knew (committed fornication or adultery) and married an unchaste woman or whore (1 Cor. 6:15) and then after righteous consideration decides to legally divorce (annul), and wants to marry a virgin, I don't see that the male would be obligated to the unchaste woman (Dt. 22:20, 21). However, as Kayypeaa said, it really would be a matter to mess up the mind of the female virgin, and she would be putting herself in a position to be compared with a past sexual love of the male. Women in the Old Testament were wives of polygamous men and had to think about the competitor wives of their husband. However, polygamy was replaced with monogamy in the New Testament. Hopefully, more males will be concerned about purity and keep their virginity. It would be great if the female virgins had a great number of males to be given (parental authority) to without having to worry about former male sex activity.
THE CONCURRENCE OF MARRIAGE IN REGARD TO
Sometimes people think of the concurrence of marriage only as the mutual consent of a male and female, but this perception may be an illusion if the female is not a virgin or a widow--marriage was also instituted to prevent unchastity in ancient Israel. God honors moral-sexual cleanliness, purity and unity in marriage. The Lord upheld the virginity of a woman so as if a male violated her chastity he was obligated to marry her. The obedience, moral cleanliness, beauty, glory, purity, magnificence and innocence of virginity possesses perpetual oversight and protection from the Lord. According to Dt. 22:29, a male was commanded to marry (take for a wife) a girl if he raped her; and it was disclosed; and under the condition that she was not engaged to anyone. He was never able to divorce her. The virginity of a girl is more than a state of chastity before marriage--it is the undefiled housing of potential reproduction of life, significance of sexual purity--God honors its holiness and innocence; and he protected the virgin against impulsive divorce once having married. The Old Testament Law states specifically, "She shall continue to be his wife; he must not divorce her as long as he lives" (Dt. 22:19). Seduction, as well as rape, instituted marriage: "If a man seduces a virgin who is not pledged to be married and sleeps with her, he must pay the bride-price, and she shall be his wife" (Ex. 22:16). One translation of the word yefateh (seduces) means that he speaks to her heart until she consents. Another translation is "to persuade." Another means "to deceive." The seduction of a virgin female who was not engaged to anyone determined that the male must marry the girl. Hypothetically, if a girl was induced to have intercourse by the male's promise to marry her, or without such promise she would not have consented to have permitted carnal knowledge with her; or not; is not relevant: the determining factor is that the virginity of the girl was violated through seduction (regardless of what the means of persuasion or enticement may have been). Thus, according to particular circumstances (regardless of the fact whether there was enticement or not on the part of the female virgin), rape or seduction of a virgin was an act which instituted marriage. However, a girl was expected to scream or complain--to avoid the silence of passivity--to prove that she did not consent to any immoral sexual aggression. If a man took (chose) a virgin for a wife and hated her afterward (with dissatisfaction), he was not able to divorce her (Dt. 22:13-19). On the other hand, if the girl was not a virgin (even though she pretended to be) and she did not have any proof of chastity, then the male was not obligated to remain married to her (Dt. 22:20, 21). More details... Virginity Search Engine
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