THE NECESSITY FOR DIVORCE
Divorce is a psychological- physical separation through commitment (I Cor. 7:10, 11): when the act of divorce is put in writing it becomes a public notice. Female fornication (Mt. 19:9) gave reason to separate or divorce from the once unity. Every married man has a responsibility to keep his wife under every circumstance, except one: if his wife is unchaste, that is, if his wife has partaken in a sexual act with someone else--this is fornication. Then, and only then, is the husband lawfully (according to the Bible) to put away his wife, and to give her a bill of divorcement. Logically, if a woman, has committed a sin of fornication with someone, a bill of divorcement does not induce her to become unchaste--she has already committed the act which defiled her.
And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
If a man puts away his wife for any reason other than fornication, he causes her to commit adultery (Mt. 5:32). Fundamentally, from a synoptical viewpoint, there are two distinct acts, the one subsequent to the other, which constitute adultery. The first act is a sin of “putting away” because the Scripture says the husband “shall cleave to his wife” (Gn. 2:24); and also, that no one should separate what God has yoked together (Mk. 10:9)--”one flesh” (Gn. 2:24). The second sinful act, “marry another”, is subsequent to the first. It also contradicts I Cor. 7:10, 11. The Lord Jesus explained that going beyond divorce so as to “marry another” constitutes adultery:
Mark 10:10 And in the house his disciples asked him again of the same matter. 11 And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her. 12 And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.
So, clearly, remarriage is adultery and against the teaching of the Lord.
A Believer Must Not Commit Fornication (verse 2) Or Remarry
I Cor. 7:1 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. 3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. 4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. 5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency. 6 But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment. 7 For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that. 8 I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I. 9 But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn. 10 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: 11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife. 12 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away. 13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. 14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy. 15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace. 16 For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife? (KJV)
However, The Believer Is Called Unto Peace (v. 15)
A believing woman cannot hold unto a man that continually fornicates, beats her up and refuses to repent (lacks remorse). She should not be joined with a homosexual, thief, substance abuser or perpetual violator of God's laws (I Timothy 1:8). I would have no objection for a woman separating from her man under those circumstances. Many times, passive women perpetuate and collaborate the sin of their mate by not separating from him!
For instance, a boxer does not leave his hands down and willfully let the other boxer beat him up: he tries to defend himself by blocking the blow. A woman can block the blow of her violent husband so to speak by implementing the municipal law to protect her, by getting a court order for protection against her husband. She would not be legally ending their marriage; she would merely be giving herself protection and her husband time to think things over. If the husband doesn't want to change and decides to divorce her, she wouldn't be at fault by letting him go.
No justification to sue for divorce: allow the rebelling, husband to do it. (v. 10)
This message is to those who have married. It is a commandment for a woman not to be divorced. Of course, this is concerning clean marriage, not one of fornication or adultery, which should be annulled. There are things that can be handled within the church and should not be taken before law courts. Although, on the other hand, there are some things the church can't handle such as murderers, rapists and other offenders of violence, and the Christian must seek help.
LINKS:
Basics Of Marriage And Divorce
Get Out Of Mainstream Corruption
Remarriage Does Not Justify Satisfying The Burn For Lust
Measures Must Be Taken To Prevent Unchastity
Understanding Natural And Spiritual Posterity
Miscegenation Was A Cause For Divorce: Ezra
Michal: Treachery And Uncleanness