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[MARRIAGE IS RELATED TO THE MYSTERY OF CHRIST AND THE CHURCH (EPHESIANS 5:25)] We are living in a time when mockers and false teachers say and do harmful things (Jude, v. 18; II Pet. 3:3). It is important that we distinguish right from wrong concerning sexual matters because marriage is a wonderful blessing for a whole lifetime: so do not be misled by the insidious conduct and false teachings of people who do not obey God. There are men who laugh at seducing a virgin and then leave her, when actually, such men, victims of their own deception, should take the responsibility of a husband to the female victim (Ex. 22:16). [Stay away from people who associate with evil people and shells of hypocrisy, not really true friends who want to advance your closeness with God. Charles Manson mocked, “Why can't ya'all just get along, love each other”, implying a negative thought of orgy-type sex instead of suicide concerning a jealous doctor whom Manson mentioned who killed himself because someone committed a sex act with his wife. __1997 parole hearing.] A virgin should be sure that she is walking in the will of the Lord and that her man friend genuinely loves her (Christian) personality before marriage. [Marriage is delicate institution and related to the mystery of Christ and the church (Ephesians 5:25). God loved and provided for us. We (the church), and wives to husbands, are to be thankful and submissive. A man must have knowledge of God and the Bible pertaining to the mystery, and a will to do the same for his wife and their posterity. She should know that he has the proper marital ethos and the moral will to love, work, provide, and sacrifice himself for her as Jesus Christ gave himself that the church could enjoy being part of the divine nature and the benefits of being his brethren. Therefore, he would also recognize that future divorce would not be acceptable. The prospective husband should have the spiritual foresight so as to require and honor the parental oversight of the relationship and the Scriptures.] The male should be walking in the will of the Lord and have a high regard (other than sexual) for his woman friend; and he should be aware of the marital responsibility (consequence) to lie with a virgin. [Men are expected to know the law (Torah) and the consequences of having premarital sex. They also should be aware that some women know this and may try to take advantage of the man even though he may not love her to the degree that he would want to marry her. The wise man may prevent many events and premarital sex, which could harm him and destroy the opportunity to find someone he may cherish. A man must be careful about the way he spends his time because he would hate to have to marry someone he didn't really want to because he couldn't control his sexual appetite! Keep yourself pure and even try not to masturbate. Building resistance if necessary and having patience so as to abide until the right one comes along is very important.] It is God's will that you recognize your present marital/sexual status from a Christian perspective. If you would like to date, and possibly marry someday, first consider your own sexual status (whether you are a virgin or not, unmarried or not). Then think upon your circumstances, and decide for yourself whether God would approve of your desire. If he would, also think hypothetically about someone of the opposite sex who seems attractive to you--does this person have an acceptable marital status? If neither you nor the desirable person has been married (with the exception of being a widower or widow), [and you are not a female who has lost her virginity or a male who has premarital sex obligations with a virgin female,] then it would be permissible for you to date. [Also, former male virgin status before marriage will not bring a moral sex disqualification as a minister of the local church.] However, since adultery [and fornication] is forbidden (Hebrews 13:4), having a romantic relationship with someone who has been married [or has pre-marital sex obligations] would be sinful and contrary to the will of God. If you are not sure what your own sexual status is, then remain single and pray to God that he will reveal it to you before you attempt to date anyone. A person who may have been left as not recognized [mere sex and abandonment], or recognized and deserted [a relationship that was broken], or publicly divorced may still be a useful Christian (I Cor. 7:10, 11). The important matter is that such a person is willing to allow God to have his holy way. If the situation is that it is not biblically permissible for a person to date any one, God still loves single people and wants to bless anyone who is willing to yield to him--He remains faithful. A person may be grateful for salvation, and helpful in Christian work even though the opportunity for marriage has been lost. [If your circumstances are not chaste and leave you with obligations, then just live single and make your life happy without the hope of a mate. Some may have lost their opportunity as a church offical also.] Whole document About the Hesedken site Learn Hebrew |
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